The Bachelor's Jake Pavelka and ex-fiance Vienna Girardi let it all out. Last night, ABC aired the first reunion of the couple since the breakup, and as you can imagine it was a very ugly and dramatic sight, ending with Vienna storming off the stage right after she declared Pavelka as the meanest person she had ever met. The couple has been in the spotlight since the show, and according to tabloids, they have had a very nasty breakup.
The feud aired during The Bachelorette, where Vienna claims Jake was not intimate with her at all, and Jake claims she "undermines" him and constantly interrupts him. "The first month we were together was great. He was crazy about me, then it went straight downhill." Jake then spoke of Vienna going to the tabloids, "I'm so mad at you. I'm so disgusted with you. You sold me out to a magazine."
Vienna's main point during the show seemed to be Jake's lack of intimacy. "At home, it wasn't like we were in a relationship. I just wanted him to be around me and talk to me and hold me and kiss me, like a normal relationship," she explained.
Jake later refuted her claim after several attempts to speak with Vienna's interruption. "She's asking why there's not intimacy, this is it. She undermines me, she breaks me down," he said. "What guy in America can be with a woman that undermines and emasculates him? ... She's like a tabloid. You get 40 percent of the truth." He continued, "To me, there's more in a relationship than just sex and intimacy." Later in the show, the couple even argued about who broke up with who.
This is proof that spending a very short time with someone while partaking in the production of a television show, and worse yet, choosing that person out of a herd of "potentials," may not exactly be the formula for true love. We all know that nurturing a relationship and getting to know someone before jumping into commitment, especially the commitment of marriage, takes a bit of time. And while it may have been successful for the first made-for-TV couple, Trista and Ryan, these shows may be more about the entertainment than creating a successful relationship.
I think any relationship that is scrutinized by the public, and worse, is developed right in front of their eyes, would be extremely difficult to maintain. If everyone is probing at your relationship, and reading about it in the headlines of tabloids, a couple may not have the chance to every truly be intimate with one another. What do you think? Would your relationship be able to withstand the pressure of the public eye?
Source: Entertainment Tonight