Being Single Is Not Easy, Married Folks Often Add to Pain with Words of Encouragement

 

When I was in high school I had dates but I did not have one of those "ohmyGodwearealmostmarriedinhighschool" boyfriend. We all have had friends who were one of those couples who acted like they were married and made everyone sick to death of the drama and all kind words that they would share with you such as "someday the right man will come along and you will have all this too!". It was enough to make you sick in high school and for the single 20 or 30 something today it is just as nauseating.

"There are other fish in the sea", "when you stop looking for Mr. Right you will find him", "you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince" and "you are cute, I am sure you will find someone real soon" is probably one of the harder ones to accept. Imagine if you were not so cute what would or would not happen.

While those were all probably said with the best of intentions, one must wonder if there is not a bit of gloating added to those sentiments. My guess is they probably were on the receiving end of those same words in high school and certainly did not like it anymore that today's singles do.

For single men and women out there, there is little that can be said than hang in there. It is rough to want to be a couple when your prospects do seem a bit thin. There are benefits that you have that married folks have said good bye to long ago. But yes, we remember what it was like to want to be a couple with anyone just to not be alone.

I could end by saying a few more encouragements for the single person. But I will simply end by wishing you all the best in your search for the perfect partner. I will remind you that there is no perfect person only someone who captures our hearts enough to remind us to forgive the imperfections. Maybe that is the secret to finding Mr or Ms right.

Taking care of the written word,

dannielyn

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