When two people with two different homes decide to become one there is always a period of adjustment that needs to be worked through. But how does one overcome the exceedingly annoying habits of the beloved?
Biting fingernails, scratching himself, licking off the knife when using mayonnaise or peanut butter before finishing the sandwich, chewing with their mouth open, breathing through their mouth while eating, peeing in the shower, blowing nose in shower and not cleaning it up, being sweaty from a work out and sitting on a fabric sofa, belching and not excusing oneself, clipping fingernails and not picking up the clippings, putting dirty and stinky clothes back in the drawers, missing the toilet and not cleaning it and popping zits in front of the other person are just some of the annoying habits that are topping many lists.
There has to be some way in which to deal with this problem without causing a huge fight between you and your loved one. Well, you can bluntly tell the person to stop being so annoying, however that often leads to more issues coming up. The best solution would be to casually ask the person why they have developed that habit.
For example the licking of the knife when using peanut butter or mayonnaise. John does not like it when his new wife Mary does this. It drives him crazy and causes him to wonder about how many food items have her saliva in them. Before causes a blow up he could ask if her mom or dad had done that very same thing. If the answer is yes, ask if both had done it or if possibly the other spouse found that to be maybe gross. It may be that Mary is not aware of the habit or how it may appear to another person. It may be enough for Mary to put a stop to this habit.
Addressing problems in an adult manner without condemning the other person will be advantageous for all parties. It will allow dialog to be opened and it will allow each party to be able to discuss issues that are bothering them in an effort to accommodate each other.
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